SINGLE HAPPY and INDEPENDENT ??? .....

Ahh a life much coveted for ..ain’t it? most of my committed and married friends feel envious of me for the same. My girlies sense my status of being single and earning is that of bliss...usually perceivd as lot of candlelights, freebies, networking, partying, etc etc

Ofcourse if u ask me m not gonna answer - I love my life, my job, my boss, my pay, my flat n yeah my savings r great n I have lot of ‘alpha’ men asking me out…we single women have our own share of blues. Sure, its fun we have all the liberty to do what we want; planning our activities, loads of shopping, partying at wee hours, indulging in our hobbies but with  ‘extra’ baggage . Right from paying bills (now bills include electricity, grocery, maid, milk, laundry, internet, TV, mobile etc ), managing other expenses - newspaper, rent, weekly outings, b’day gifts, gifts to be taken home etc etc …wait that excludes shopping, grooming expenses….n yeah how bout cooking meals after a loooong exhausting day (u can’t gobble hotel food more than once a day – need 2 keep a check on calories too!!) N not to forget the pleasure of cleaning when the maid is on her ‘privilege leave’ n ur roomies are too tired of doing the dishes. Grrrrrrrr…….Now U say that's quite a routine of the same old chores

And then comes the intresting part --- of men in our singledom. I may not be wrong if I say we have very few choices against the pool of ‘GENTLE’men askin us out. We are often blamed to suffer from the "Sex and The City syndrome" looking for love but being overly decisive n critical , rejecting Mr Rights left and right - if he's wearing wrong socks or shoes and  theair of independence in our head..ahh!! How wrong..I wish I could narrate more on this when my friends mock at me- ‘Seriously, how r u single yet??’…Well, it's better off being single than a wrong choice made which  follows a huge melancholy. Endless expectations and limited time is all we have..

N’ now as my current status goes - single, happy n …….… I just take a backseat and rethink- I’m out of home since last four years - for my education and now for my job and have taken all my responsibilities right from enrolling for my postgrad to the recent job I joined. Living on your own , making your own decisions is really an enriching experience. It gives us the chance to discover who we  are, how we tackle things, what we seek out of life, our expectations , our potentials and limitations . With so many sad break ups around , ’ instant ‘ relationships, a better career, i'm sure most of my gIrlies will like being  single.Why not make the most of it? So relax until your dashing knight arrives to sweep u off your feet ……

Cos if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it

Matrimonial BIZARRE

Once we are done with  education and are with a decent job , “settling down” (read marriage ) becomes a priority for our families. Marriage - an imp stage in everyone's life. A major transition -- of independence to codependence or should I say a mousetrap wherein outside trying to get in n’ those on the inside  trying to get out….

While some of us get lucky and find their respective one's on their own , most of us have to depend on our families and matrimonial sites.  The matrimonial websites these days claim to have made the search easy by making our partners 'just one click away'.  Following are some hilarious matrimonial ads I came through which have repelled me from these sites.

Disclaimer: I am not responsible if you forget your basic grammar after reading this. Grammar and spelling errors have no place in a profile description as everything is straight from the heart

1. "I am old calm & handsome person. Working in MNC As a Production engineer. looking for any graduate & free minded (friendly)girl with good family with minimum graduation"................[Can ne1 tel me wotz free minded n minimum graduation???]

2. i am xxxxxx ,am cool ,dinamic,businessman , am search traditional, dynamic partner, am very busy person , I am owner of 7 tractor showroam in place mysore . my total employ more than 150, my annual tornver is more than 50 croses, i reach 1oo croses this year. Desired partner- she is cool and traditional,she partner for all my life.

3. i am a freemind person i like a partner like me take decision on own. i am pursing currently CA my family is tradition. my partner should have freely mingly with my family my family basically agriculture family my family annual income is 1200000 pa we are growing sugar cane…

4. I am looking a girl for my life partner I am vary honest and heartily searching a good hart girl and I am working in mysore, in HDFC bank As manager I am looking a good loving one caring for me, about myself I love honest & trooth I believe in god lot, I am simply always, my hobby is to watch cricket and after my mirage I have dream that my child's has to play in any kind of international game,and I am NCC candidate I love Mountaineering,I have done good achievement in Mountaineering , down to earth, caring and understanding person.i am the person can do anything what i want to do. i have good self confident in my past and future if possible i want to go abroad also. as i said above i believe in god and my ability.i can Cary my life at any type of time of situation.i will respect my parents lot…......……………….

5. Well..honestly I don't know how i'm going to describe my personality here in a few sentences. but generally i'm introverted, warm (though I may not look like it), calm and composed.am looking for a girl who understands and adjust the family with good habit and thoughts..

6. PARTNER PREFERENCE- Degree Holder or more. look likes good in all

7. There is just 1 thing that I would like to say before u go further, I do not know if I hav managed to express my self in the words below, as well as it needs to be. But the 1 who understands the feelings between the lines would be my IDOL partner. LOL……

8. REQUIRED LIFE PARTNER WHO IS POLITE BY NATURE

this last one is by my crazy gf who posted on my FB wall -
hi , laxmi dear... i saw ur profile and im in loves you. i am 27 and i am a stable ..with many horses in my name ... i have also farm (ville) with many pink n brown cows ...i hav done mca (master in custodial arts) n i will always keep the house clean..even as a career .. can i have frndship ?..i wont beg okay .. so please !! please ?? pleeaseeeee

CUPID STRIKES…YET AGAIN ?? !!!!!

“WE LIVE ONCE AND FALL IN LOVE ONCE .. .LOVE HAPPENS ONLY ONCE AND REST IS JUST LIFE”… yaaaawn ! corny cliched lines from a romantic candyfloss flick which I was watching ( read bearing) while I was travelling on my way back to Pune. The movie was a treatise on love, trivia of the heart and the sacrifice and hardship a relationship entails. . but the question is do we fall in love only once ? How many of us really do agree that Cupid strikes only once? The immortal love stories penned by the biggest authors of all da times- Romeo Juliet , Lakme Gerard, Devdas Paro Mirza Sahiba, Sassi Punnun Sohni Mahiwal Heer Ranjha etc etc. Are they baseless or kinda abstract?Why the bards like Keats, Shakespeare, Wordworth, Milton wrote endless verses on this thing called ‘eternal’ love . Though  not a veteran to comment on this topic, I would like to share my views. I belive that one keeps falling in love not once but zillion times unless he/she finds the right one . Rest I think are infatuations, lust or hankering around.There are many people whom we meet in the journey of our lives who are compatible with us and bring out the best in us n often we fall for them knowingly or unknowingly. U may disagree with my opinion on this point but I feel that love isn't something that ever really ever fades, it's like a sweet smell that keeps lingering throughout your life. One can fall out of an infatuation or lust, but one cannot fall out of true love . True love is deeper than what most idiots think it is anyway

Brian Andrew says - People come into your life for a reason. a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. True that, love is something which takes efforts and time to build. To find that someone whom you can see yourself and still be compatible even after fifty years, who can bear the ugly side of you,laugh with you,cry with you,can heighten your spirits during hardship.As they say, the real test of love is growing in love, nurturing it through time and commitment, and developing in the qualities of love. Everything else is fleeting ……

P H E W !!!!!!!!!!!!!. . . . . . . .

Truly an eventful month,quite an assortment of happenings – never a dull moment for sure.
But wotta relief…just can’t explain the liberated feeling of being ME again.... sometimes in life u feel u r tied to things for which there's no way out and life's all tangled, tousled and it ain’t the way you wanted to …you feel u want to abscond all alone on an secluded island far away..
Was completely on an INTROSPECTIVE SEIZURE for past few days… glad my prayers were heard the  slow-down in life  is over. I must say it was a good release.It certainly has helped me to search for a new perspective / slant in life…
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A DREAMER !!!!

Dreams ….million thnigs have been penned on these so called dreams.Everyone has them ...some are too practical to even think of ‘em, while others are too passionate bout their dreams. I still remember my fresher’s day in college when my Principal said - DREAM BIG!! even if you are not able to realize all of them, in the process of trying, u’ll atleast attain half of your goals. No harm in dreaming big but it hurts when dreams die,it's like glass pieces shattered from a heightened place. In life's race, some are winners n some are looser. Hope is what we have beneath us that keeps us going. Though life gives hundred reasons to frown, I know there are better things to come.  I hold to that distant star… thinking of all the good things I could do . Dreams, never let them die….
I call myself a distant dreamer

FOR THE GOOD TIMES!!!

A Cuppa of hot tea, Elvis Presley and me….yet anoder Sunday noon. It's already 1 pm in the noon and I'm having my first cup of tea. Thanks to the late night party at my cousin’s flat. It definitely was a great weekend since I met them all after a long time. Old forgotten childhood memories were rekindled. A fun filled conversation followed by a lavish dinner made it a perfect one.
 Sunday noon for me is nothing but indulging in my favourite activities.. listening to music and while Elvis sings FOR THE GOOD TIMES in his legendary voice, I relish the long forgotten sweet memories of my childhood wid my cousins, the things which were once taken for granted now become ‘luxuries’ - rambling in the hot sun, making caves out of the heap of sand, climbing trees, chasing butterflies, collecting those sand shells, believing in the non existing ghosts, hunting for the imaginary hidden treasures , bunking tuitions, taming rabbits and doves, playing in the rain, sneaking out of home at wee hours was all so much fun.it was a different world altogether where everything was so perfect -either right or either wrong…n then I wonder why we grow up . why the time flies away….why cant we turn back time again?..all questions remain unanswered … for those good times are never gonna return………

From RESOLUTIONS to ZEROLUTIONS ………

Last week I was going through all my old diaries which I’ve been writing for the last fu years (yes I belong to dose “diary writing” species ) n I noticed one thing which was common amongst all of ‘em …Every first page of my diary had ‘RESOLUTIONS’ made 4 that every new year [which become ZEROLUTIONS at the end of the year] …

How many of us really abide by the resolutions we make for the new year??... very few of us…In fact, we make plans and fail to practice ‘em and this plans which r penned with lot of zeal and commitment remain mere scraps of paper. I hav been making resolutions 4m last few years n yes I do follow them n they hardly last for a week or a fortnight . One of my resolutions which have been consistent all this years has been ‘losing weight’. In fact. I did it last year with lot of craving n crash diets for which I succeeded in loosing 6 kgs –an effort to look good on my cousin’s wedding day- which I succeeded . But to my disappointment it int take long time to pile up all that fat which I had lost instantly. Thanx to the munching of chocolates and my thankless job !!

Thomas Jefferson said “The sovereign invigorator of the body is exercise, and of all the exercises walking is the best.” Well said ….My constant endeavor for exercising n waking up in the morning have always failed. The tracks, sweat shirts and  the shoes which I shopped once in the hope that one day I would wake up n go jogging r still lying in the wardrobe and that ONE DAY has not yet arrived. This ‘one day’ has now become a shaggy dog story for my roomies and often the butt of jokes.

My first resolution for  2010 was to follow all other resolutions I made for the year. It’s February andas always my resolutions have remained abstract. I gave it a serious thought last week n made my mind to practice what I wrote. This time I thought of giving a hard try n how …..

I took out my tracks, teez n shoes n loaded my musicplayer with all the trance music I had .Finally all set to go for a walk ,I put an alarm of 6.30 am n slept off to glory .I woke up in the morning to find out that it was 8.15 am. Gosh ! late my ordinary days .I quickly took a shower and rushed to office. My plan for DaY 1 failed. But  NO , I’m not gonna quit,same thing followed for the next two days…Now I thought if not jogging why not try yoga at home..PLAN B - The yoga CD which I got once was now supposed to come out of my CD box, my alarm buzzed at around 6.30 am again which I put it on snooze.. I felt too lazy to put on the laptop to follow the instructions in the wee hours of morning...n I dozed off again. But I’m no quitter . I’m soon planning to join some aerobic classes . After a lot of dithering I’m still trying my best to manifest my dream of that ‘one day’ ….. this year I’ll not let my RESOLUTIONS don’t turn into ZEROLUTIONS. Wish me luck…..

MY ‘RICK’ETY RICKSHAW TALE

A Rickshaw , the three wheeled vehicle widely used as a affordable means of transport in India. This small 3 wheeled vehicle which can vroom in the heavy traffic of Indian streets  can be a big pain onthe 'bum'py roads and can send a chill through ur spines when on the deserted streets like a rollercoaster ride.

Pune, the city where I stay is abound with rickshaws. In fact its the lifeblood of the city next to the local buses. I commute to my office by auto. In fact this auto’connexion’ commenced since I was of age 6 n travelled to school by the same vehicle. And 18 years later it still has the same charm. Good old school days I still remember how 12 of us were cramped in this  vehicle and me being a  fatso was always made to sit in the front with the driver whom we referred as RICKSHAW MAMA since he was sane enough to know that I would hav easily occupied the space of 3 kids behind… But what fun we had on the way school n back home!! Never realized when we reached our destination. The best part of the day was after school when we all narrated our stories and the happenings in the school to our RICKSHAW MAMA n lol we even had a fight on whose going to update him first. Poor driver I now understand his patience. He had to hear 12 kids ranting and fighting over silly conversations. N how can I forget that rubbery horn’s honking which sounded more like a elephant’s trumpet. It surely has special memories. By the time I was 10, our school changed n rickshaw was replaced by bicycle n then eventually by bike.

I was reconnected to this vehicle some 3 years ago when I came to Pune for studies and now my life starts n ends with rickshaws. Pune is also known as the city of two wheelers ..the next thing u’ll find on the city streets is rickshaws. Such is the significance of this vehicle that even if a single day the autowallahs go on strike its a big annoyance for the residents here. No wonder these autowallahs always are successful in having their demands granted. And if u r new to the city or u don’t have a meter card or don't know the meter rating calculations, you are bound to be royally jacked !! N not to forget bout the arrogance of these autowallahs they wont take u to ur destination even if u pay double the amount. Not all of the autowallahs r bad,some of them are really helpful.

Even today, the best part of my day is when I travel alone in rickshaw on the way to office n back home, though there isn’t that gud ol’ RICKSHAW MAMA to listen to my rant.This part of my day gives an opportunity to converse with myself,half of my plans I make for my day r made in rickshaw on the way to office.  Favourite music  with million things on my mind n a bumpy rickshaw ride…

Rickshaws might get modified or might even become extinct or even be replaced but this auto-connection  is a special one…now is that what u call ’AUTO’XICATION??

OUT, OUT, YOU DEMONS OF STUPIDITY!!

Caught in situations where you blatantly fake a smile and listen to all the nonsense blabbering of the person next to you?? If not, congratulations !! For rest of the poor victims, I really do sympathize with you.. Specially in a profession like mine where you converse with umpteen no. of people on a day to day basis  Sometimes I wonder why is common sense is not common ?? Earlier it got on my nerves, but I have finally found my own ways to elude from such conversations. Such people do hardly care if its a matter of interest for you. No matter what, they are all there to give their extra bits n will even go on elaborating GIVEN-A- SITUATION -WHAT –WUD- I- DO

In the words of Albert Einstein -Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. Agree. Stupidity and free advice is abundant in this world .

The demons of stupidity are here to stay!!!!

Toast to that wonderful relationship!!!!!!!!

Partnership is really a blessing of Lord
That binds two closely in a strong chord
The chord that carries affection and love
That is sent from God from heaven above
And it is called marriage…..

Today is Mom and Dad’s 25th wedding anniversary. And I had huge plans for this special day of my parents. Dad left us on 16th July last year. Of all the relationships I’ve seen till date, this one is a real special one. The wonderful camaraderie my parents shared is rare to find. I hardly remember them having any argument in those 24 years of their relationship. It was really unique in it’s own way. They were poles apart and had their own differences but admired and encouraged each other in every li’l thing. Dad was a complete cleanliness freak {runs in family genes} and mom had her own temperament. But li’l adjustments and compromises made things alrighty. And I think that is one reason of growing up in such a happy, loving environment of such a perfect-seeming couple has made me have some unrealistic expectations of my life partner..:D They truly made a lovely home and what seemed like unconditional love for me.

Here is a toast for that incredible relationship you both shared!! Miss you n love you,father wherever you are…I wish we would all have been together today on this special day of yours…..