Life is a paradox… What you want, you don’t get; What you get, you don’t enjoy; what you enjoy is not permanent; What is permanent is not boring. That’s life… Ironic yet truly worth living for.

conditions apply !!

 even love comes with a tag these days... conditions apply**...

Rest is still UNWRITTEN !!

Wondering what life is at 26 !!  a paradox? ..a chase? ..a  riddle? .still trying to unravel the mystery of the so called life ...Of late it has been more of confusions and contradictions.Wondering why I feel like the most awsom-est person on the earth one moment and  a loner the next ??..at complete peace one moment and then like the most paranoid puppy on  a deserted street the next ??  Has mid life crisis already hit in my mid twenties ..Noooo !!

Life till now has been more of  a roller coaster ride with ups n'  down. taking the best and  yeah even the worst  decisions on the spur of the moment  and regretting it, crying the night away and then letting go of the melancholy with a shopping spree ;doses of caffenine n chocolates ; bitching it away with long distance gurlies  n' back with the sunshine the next day.I was more of a believer in - My way or the Highway, but of late realised that things are not easy...they never were and that the highway has more twists and turns;compromises, adjustments,endless wait  is what life about. But aint that what life is?...the other day  my roomie and I were discussing , what if we had a magic crystal ball where we could predict our future -- a glimpse at our Mr. Rights or if a promotion on cards ??..wow  , we could prioritise things accordingly. But then there's no thrill in easy sailing...what is life without challenges, without mystery; there's no fun  in giving up the chase.  Just liks Alice in Wonderland  says - "If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see?” We live for faith, hoping the best  don't we??  It's more about treading along an unknown path ; taking the high road , the plunge..... learning, accepting, keeping our eyes open for all the wonderful possibilities ahead ,letting go and then starting afresh whilst the rest is still unwritten......

And while  Natasha Bedingfield sings, I just can't agree more --

Feel the rain on your skin ,No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in,No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten ....

THE CITY I ADOPTED N’ THE CITY THAT ADOPTED ME…

Pune - the city with pulsating energy abuzz with the vibe of young crowd …the frenzy two wheeler crammed  streets withholding its old charm amidst the antique bungalows….million impossible dreams…. career treadmills movin at a breath takin’ pace with the ever growing  hydra headed monster of technology…the daily grind of  the thousand office goers …  the city where thousands of newbies like me come with zillion aspirations to live the quintessential independent life and to have their own mark . Its the city I adopted and the city that adopted me..the city where I struggled my feet..where I discovered who I was..n began to dream where my life wanted to go..brick by brick I built my life here…and finally like after five years I feel I have arrived…I think I have come a long way and still have a looooong way to go.........

SINGLE HAPPY and INDEPENDENT ??? .....

Ahh a life much coveted for ..ain’t it? most of my committed and married friends feel envious of me for the same. My girlies sense my status of being single and earning is that of bliss...usually perceivd as lot of candlelights, freebies, networking, partying, etc etc

Ofcourse if u ask me m not gonna answer - I love my life, my job, my boss, my pay, my flat n yeah my savings r great n I have lot of ‘alpha’ men asking me out…we single women have our own share of blues. Sure, its fun we have all the liberty to do what we want; planning our activities, loads of shopping, partying at wee hours, indulging in our hobbies but with  ‘extra’ baggage . Right from paying bills (now bills include electricity, grocery, maid, milk, laundry, internet, TV, mobile etc ), managing other expenses - newspaper, rent, weekly outings, b’day gifts, gifts to be taken home etc etc …wait that excludes shopping, grooming expenses….n yeah how bout cooking meals after a loooong exhausting day (u can’t gobble hotel food more than once a day – need 2 keep a check on calories too!!) N not to forget the pleasure of cleaning when the maid is on her ‘privilege leave’ n ur roomies are too tired of doing the dishes. Grrrrrrrr…….Now U say that's quite a routine of the same old chores

And then comes the intresting part --- of men in our singledom. I may not be wrong if I say we have very few choices against the pool of ‘GENTLE’men askin us out. We are often blamed to suffer from the "Sex and The City syndrome" looking for love but being overly decisive n critical , rejecting Mr Rights left and right - if he's wearing wrong socks or shoes and  theair of independence in our head..ahh!! How wrong..I wish I could narrate more on this when my friends mock at me- ‘Seriously, how r u single yet??’…Well, it's better off being single than a wrong choice made which  follows a huge melancholy. Endless expectations and limited time is all we have..

N’ now as my current status goes - single, happy n …….… I just take a backseat and rethink- I’m out of home since last four years - for my education and now for my job and have taken all my responsibilities right from enrolling for my postgrad to the recent job I joined. Living on your own , making your own decisions is really an enriching experience. It gives us the chance to discover who we  are, how we tackle things, what we seek out of life, our expectations , our potentials and limitations . With so many sad break ups around , ’ instant ‘ relationships, a better career, i'm sure most of my gIrlies will like being  single.Why not make the most of it? So relax until your dashing knight arrives to sweep u off your feet ……

Cos if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it

Matrimonial BIZARRE

Once we are done with  education and are with a decent job , “settling down” (read marriage ) becomes a priority for our families. Marriage - an imp stage in everyone's life. A major transition -- of independence to codependence or should I say a mousetrap wherein outside trying to get in n’ those on the inside  trying to get out….

While some of us get lucky and find their respective one's on their own , most of us have to depend on our families and matrimonial sites.  The matrimonial websites these days claim to have made the search easy by making our partners 'just one click away'.  Following are some hilarious matrimonial ads I came through which have repelled me from these sites.

Disclaimer: I am not responsible if you forget your basic grammar after reading this. Grammar and spelling errors have no place in a profile description as everything is straight from the heart

1. "I am old calm & handsome person. Working in MNC As a Production engineer. looking for any graduate & free minded (friendly)girl with good family with minimum graduation"................[Can ne1 tel me wotz free minded n minimum graduation???]

2. i am xxxxxx ,am cool ,dinamic,businessman , am search traditional, dynamic partner, am very busy person , I am owner of 7 tractor showroam in place mysore . my total employ more than 150, my annual tornver is more than 50 croses, i reach 1oo croses this year. Desired partner- she is cool and traditional,she partner for all my life.

3. i am a freemind person i like a partner like me take decision on own. i am pursing currently CA my family is tradition. my partner should have freely mingly with my family my family basically agriculture family my family annual income is 1200000 pa we are growing sugar cane…

4. I am looking a girl for my life partner I am vary honest and heartily searching a good hart girl and I am working in mysore, in HDFC bank As manager I am looking a good loving one caring for me, about myself I love honest & trooth I believe in god lot, I am simply always, my hobby is to watch cricket and after my mirage I have dream that my child's has to play in any kind of international game,and I am NCC candidate I love Mountaineering,I have done good achievement in Mountaineering , down to earth, caring and understanding person.i am the person can do anything what i want to do. i have good self confident in my past and future if possible i want to go abroad also. as i said above i believe in god and my ability.i can Cary my life at any type of time of situation.i will respect my parents lot…......……………….

5. Well..honestly I don't know how i'm going to describe my personality here in a few sentences. but generally i'm introverted, warm (though I may not look like it), calm and composed.am looking for a girl who understands and adjust the family with good habit and thoughts..

6. PARTNER PREFERENCE- Degree Holder or more. look likes good in all

7. There is just 1 thing that I would like to say before u go further, I do not know if I hav managed to express my self in the words below, as well as it needs to be. But the 1 who understands the feelings between the lines would be my IDOL partner. LOL……

8. REQUIRED LIFE PARTNER WHO IS POLITE BY NATURE

this last one is by my crazy gf who posted on my FB wall -
hi , laxmi dear... i saw ur profile and im in loves you. i am 27 and i am a stable ..with many horses in my name ... i have also farm (ville) with many pink n brown cows ...i hav done mca (master in custodial arts) n i will always keep the house clean..even as a career .. can i have frndship ?..i wont beg okay .. so please !! please ?? pleeaseeeee

CUPID STRIKES…YET AGAIN ?? !!!!!

“WE LIVE ONCE AND FALL IN LOVE ONCE .. .LOVE HAPPENS ONLY ONCE AND REST IS JUST LIFE”… yaaaawn ! corny cliched lines from a romantic candyfloss flick which I was watching ( read bearing) while I was travelling on my way back to Pune. The movie was a treatise on love, trivia of the heart and the sacrifice and hardship a relationship entails. . but the question is do we fall in love only once ? How many of us really do agree that Cupid strikes only once? The immortal love stories penned by the biggest authors of all da times- Romeo Juliet , Lakme Gerard, Devdas Paro Mirza Sahiba, Sassi Punnun Sohni Mahiwal Heer Ranjha etc etc. Are they baseless or kinda abstract?Why the bards like Keats, Shakespeare, Wordworth, Milton wrote endless verses on this thing called ‘eternal’ love . Though  not a veteran to comment on this topic, I would like to share my views. I belive that one keeps falling in love not once but zillion times unless he/she finds the right one . Rest I think are infatuations, lust or hankering around.There are many people whom we meet in the journey of our lives who are compatible with us and bring out the best in us n often we fall for them knowingly or unknowingly. U may disagree with my opinion on this point but I feel that love isn't something that ever really ever fades, it's like a sweet smell that keeps lingering throughout your life. One can fall out of an infatuation or lust, but one cannot fall out of true love . True love is deeper than what most idiots think it is anyway

Brian Andrew says - People come into your life for a reason. a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. True that, love is something which takes efforts and time to build. To find that someone whom you can see yourself and still be compatible even after fifty years, who can bear the ugly side of you,laugh with you,cry with you,can heighten your spirits during hardship.As they say, the real test of love is growing in love, nurturing it through time and commitment, and developing in the qualities of love. Everything else is fleeting ……